marriage forum
Janet Kuypers
JANET: The topic is marriage. Why do people ask their mate to marry in a private place?
andi: So, they slipped the ring upon their fingers, and shoved cake into each others mouths, and set the stage for years to come of waking up next to the same body every morning.g: I have an 18 to 23 year-old mind. Much older but not ready to be. Birthday’s were ignored, days uncounted, time flew by. The pursuit of the job took me away from everything. I found it, came back, my friend since 5 is engaged.
J: I suppose I lack the fortitude for marriage, the conscience too, and maybe the constitution to afford the possibility of boredom. Maybe I’m just so God damn lazy I can’t put the effort into a relationship. Yeah, that’s it. Chalk it up to character flaw and move on, or maybe no one lets me dress them up the way I’d like to.a: I have no idea. s: uhhhh-what?
T: I am engaged. We don’t know when the big thing will happen. Too many things that need to be done before that time comes. We will explore a number of things before we enter into this lifetime commitment. Too much to do. Too much to explore.
JP: Why would I ask my mate to marry me huh? Yesterday I was taking a shit and it was long and flowing. It rapped around the toilet 2 1/2 times. It was incredible! I don’t think marriage is necessary. Why do you have to make it a legal ceremony. Why can’t you just have fun and do what you want to do. If there is a commitment to be made, why can’t it be done between each other, why does it have to be done ceremoniously to make it mean anything. One changes as life goes on and maybe ones partner changes in a completely opposite direction, then you are no longer suitable for each other and life goes on. Marriage is for the weak, who need a legally stable relationship so if anything goes wrong you’re ok.
Janet: Marriage is for tax purposes. Marriage is to make your parents happy. Marriage is the one thing that men can do to make women feel better. Marriage is the one thing that women can hold over men’s heads. Marriage is the one thing that make women feel like the princesses they read about when they were little girls, dressed in ribbons and pink dresses and patent-leather buckle shoes.So marriage. It makes you feel like your mate actually means it, I suppose. So I feel like I don’t ever want to get married sometimes, and sometimes I want the four bridesmaids dressed identically marching down a line together and I want all ::eyes to be turned on me. I want my day, even if (especially if) my parents would have to spend $20,000 to make it happen.
GPG: I prefer vows sealed by blood - the point of marriage is a ritual that means your lover won’t injure you. It’s a ritual of trust, dig? It’s something you shouldn’t do until you are capable of that form of trust, or are the sort of person that ever .. thinks that trust is important.
Matt: I want to marry, someday in the so distant future. I want that unobtainable perfectness, but not now. Will I ever be ready? If I am so be it, it would seem that the other person would enter in to this and YES sir you are correct sir. Any way fuck this marriage topic and move on. I don’t want to prove anything I just want what I want but who knows what i will or won’t want when so
this is all immaterial anyway.andi: I want someone to take my head, and throw it back, and hit me like a ton of bricks so that when he asks me “ So what’s your choice?” I can say” I don’t have a Choice!” I don’t want to have any feelings, beside the one that makes me want nothing more than their hand throwing my head back and that nothing more could get me so wet.Lisa: marriage is death clear and simply, it is restricting as a computer that you don’t know how to work, when you’re me, you’re spontaneity and drawn by your pants, whether or not there is something inside to draw them, whether or not it means a ring of energy, and well, to wrap it up if Z; which is my alter ego, ever gets married, then I will give her a cork and not a ring, and that’s not good for anybody, is it?
JANET: Oh, God, this is a sick statement of how us poets here in Chicago deal with relationships. Anyone else?JASON: Marriage? Is that the topic? I would like to get married. I seem to be the only writer in the entire city of Chicago who wants to. However, no one wants to get married to me. And that’s all I have to say about marriage.
