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Deciding our Life and Death
Do you have a will? No, we dont want you to donate your riches to this magazine after your death, but we were wondering about letting people know what should be done with us after we die. The frightening thing is that weve had to start discussing what should people do if we almost die. Thats what our medical community has allowed us to do weve had to start thinking about when we think we have to let go and stop playing God, so to speak.
Lets start with some background: on February 25, 1990, Terri Schiavo (wife to Michael, daughter of the Schindlers) around 5:30 a.m. EST, Schiavo collapsed in the hallway of her St. Petersburg apartment, where she then went into cardiac arrest and suffered severe brain damage. The cardiac arrest is believed to be due to a bulimia nervosa-induced hypokalemia (insanely low potassium), and while waiting for the paramedics to arrive, she experienced a loss of oxygen to the brain. Schiavo remained unconscious and fell into a coma. To keep her alive, Schiavo was intubated, ventilated and trached; she was also given a percutaneous endoscopic gastrostomy (PEG) to provide nutrition and hydration. She came out of the coma two and a half months later, but never regained consciousness nor had any evidence of higher cortical function.
I tell you what the doctors repeatedly said, because people look at Terri and believe that she has to have some cognitive function. I keep reiterating this point, because in a permanent vegetative state, looks can be deceiving. Her parents made many requests to keep her alive, and Michael, on ABC Newss Nightline on March 15, 2005, said that her family expressed willingness to keep Terri alive by multiple extreme measures, including quadruple amputation if needed. This is why he explained that he had to keep custody of Terri, to avoid having her blood family doing harsh things to her in their effort to keep her alive. Michael knew after a few years of trying desperately to help Terri that there was nothing that he or the medical community could do. Michael even startd to move on with his life (meeting a woman and having two children, after his wife had been, for all intents and purposes, gone for fifteen years), but because of the way he feared her parents may treat her, Michael remained married to her, and her guardian. It sounds harsh. But when youre married to a woman who becomes so injured that there is nothing medically that cane be done for her, when you fear that other members of her family will treat her like a guinea pig in a vain effort to make her better, you may be forced to make the same kind of decisions.
And Michael has stated that he has not divorced Terri because he would lose guardianship over her, and he wants to make sure he can carry out her final wishes. He didnt accept money offers from other sources (one was for ten million dollars) to give up custodian rights, and he didnt divorce her, so that he could make sure Terris final wishes were carried out. Well, he seems to have an answer for everything. I hear of Republicans (you know, like the likes of Shawn Hannity) talk about the individual research they have done, where they have talked to a few nurses who think Terri had cognitive function. Wait, nurses may try, but they dont have enough education to be a doctor, and Id guess they may take the same stance as any individual who saw Terri occasionally flinch, and assume she was cognisant with them. Wait, Im sounding rude. Forgive me. Wait, dont forgive me. Im making a point here. Republicans across the board here are all for preserving her life, by not playing God and removing the feeding tube, when they may have been playing God for fifteen years by unnaturally keeping her alive. Republicans cant talk to me about not playing God. Thats all they do sometimes. When looking at the evidence I could find about her case, it seemed that Michael was able to answer everything, and consider Terris best interests (though weve never heard beyond a reasonable doubt what Terris finally wishes were, because he claims she only told him once, and there is no printed record of her beliefs). But he may possibly choose to not let people know all of the truths. For example, a bone scan was revealed, which showed evidence of multiple fractures all along her legs and two in her ribs, and it looked like there was a possible blow to the head which caused her originals fall. People wondered if there was a history of beatings between of Michael on Terri, but some understand that when someone is bulemic there is nutritional loss, causing fragile and more brittle bones, which can commonly lead to fractures like the ones in Terris bone scan. Courts wouldnt listen to the bone scan testimony, because it had nothing to do with the post-accident condition of Terri. Oh, so now we get to the part of this fiasco where the government involved itself. You see, the government would never have come into this if Terris parents didnt protest so much. That sounds rude, but making the decision to end lives like this is not uncommon, that decision is made quite regularly in this country, but the Schindlers protested Michaels legal guardianship of his wife, and they protested his decisions for years. So I tried to listen to other stories, but I dont know how many of them are accurate. One example is that my husband heard an announcer on the radio discussing that the Schindler family didnt visit her at all when she was first injured, but only after they heard that Michael was granted guardianship that they started to protest and fight for rights over their daughter. Now, I have no way to prove that statement at all it may be completely wrong. We tried to learn about the Schindler family visitation history, but all we could find was that the Schindlers have been in battle with Michael for a decade which is five years after her accident and problems began. So I guess this means that we cant take that bit of news seriously, until we can prove it. But I can continue looking for other media forms, which may be accurate. When I tried to to search for more information: Michael admitted on Larry King Live (probably more accurate) that he didnt know what Terri wanted (I thought he said he knew her wishes?). His lie about Terris wishes is the basis of the courts approval of euthanizing Terri (oh, so maybe he wasnt for her death, the way people assume he was trying to get her death over with). In both a 2003 court affidavit and her March 22 cable appearances, Carle Sauer Iyer said that Terri was alert and oriented while she cared for her (from April 1995 to July 1996), saying such things as mommy, and help me. Iyer said, Michael Schiavo was focused on Terris death. Michael would say When is she going to die? Has she died yet? and When is that bitch gonna die? . And when Terri was not doing well, He would blurt out Im going to be rich, Iyer also believed that Michael injected Terri with Regular insulin to make her sick. In her affidavit, Iyer also said that when she called the police, she was terminated the next day. She even said in an FNC interview that when Terri had a urinary tract infection, Michael would be excited, thrilled, even hoping that she would die soon. Judge Greer dismissed Iyers charges, saying that affidavits given by both Carle Sauer Iyer and Heidi Law (another nurse who cared for Terri Schiavo) were incredible to say the least and that either in the testimony nor in the medical records is there support for these affidavits. Basically, although nurses talked of Michael behaving rudely and seeing responsiveness in Terri, Judge Greer found no substance in their charges and dismissed them. Now, when Terris tube was ordered removed by the courts, the Department of Children and Families filed a petition that contains 30 new allegations of abuse, neglect or exploitation between the Schiavos. But then again, the DCF said the allegations only came through its anonymous abuse hot line, so no proof could ever be made of the claims. It seems that all subsequent proofs for mistreatment of Terri is all clouded in a lack of evidence. I could go on... Barbara Weller, an attorney for Terri Schiavos parents (of course no one else heard this...), said Terri cried and yelled out that she wants to live after being told her life-sustaining feeding tube would be removed by court order. Or... Dr. Hammesfahr said that not only has Terri never had a heart attack, she also never even had a cardiac arrest (her heart never stopped). Im sure doctors would agree with him... I dont know who to side with. We can say that Michael was a criminal according to Florida state law, because he was in an adulterous relationship. But beyond that, we have no proof of anything, and we just have to rely on our own ethical and moral opinions. Which is an interesting though, because USA Today ran an editorial April 3rd of 2005, where Paul Rogat Loeb started by talking about Terri Schiavo, then segued into the concept of abortion. Their theory was that Youd think this (right-to-die) belief ... would also raise support for maintaining the right to abortion, while historically abortion laws have become more stringent over the years, and the number of abortions has (on average) actually gone down over the past decade. Is USA Today trying to get people up-in-arms about one subject while talking about another? Theyre starting to sound like me then, going off on one tangent to another, while trying to cover one issue. But the answers to the questions the Schiavo case raises may only be ones we as individuals can answer on our own for our own lives. Thats why I asked in the beginning of this editorial if you know what you want done if something like this happens to you. Because people dont question Pope John Paul II when he makes a choice about the upcoming end of his life, because he let people know. Maybe we should know what we want for ourselves, too.
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