It Hurts in the Bones
2015 edit
Janet Kuypers
3/26/15
adapted from 2006’s “It Hurts in the Bones”
I didn’t realize
how much pain she was in
she looked like her neck hurt,
her back hurt
so I’d ask if if I could rub her neck or back
and she’d say no
then she’d say
that wouldn’t help
that it hurts down in the bones
and we read this is one of the stages
of this disease
and I don’t know what it feels like
to hurt in your bones
something deeper than deep muscle pain
I
I can’t imagine it
I can’t imagine what it feels like
I think my mom
wouldn’t let on
about how much pain she was in
When the doctors told mom
she had six months to a year with this disease
I said to mom,
your father (our grandfather) had cancer
and the doctors said he had
six months to live.
how long did he live?
and mom replied,
six years.
so I said we Bakutis are strong folk
and she can be okay if she fights
but I think mom remembered the agony
of the last weeks of her father’s life,
and I think mom was in so much pain
that she made a decision tight then and there
that she didn’t want that pain
deep down in her bones any more
and decided to let her enemy win.
we keep saying to people that it’s better
if she’s not suffering any more
it kills us inside
but we don’t want her to feel that pain anymore
and we keep telling everyone
that this is for the best.
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