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See YouTube video of Janet Kuypers reading her poem one twenty fifteen destruction instructions: on destroying a relationship live 2/27/15 in her Chicago Destruction Instructions show (Canon fs200)

See YouTube video of Janet Kuypers reading her poem one twenty fifteen destruction instructions: on destroying a relationship live 2/27/15 in her Chicago Destruction Instructions show (Canon PS)

See YouTube video 2/27/15 of Janet Kuypers’s Chicago show Destruction Instructions of 5 poem WITH THIS POEMs with John on electric base (Canon fs200)

See YouTube video 2/27/15 of Janet Kuypers’s Chicago show Destruction Instructions of 5 poems WITH THIS POEM with John on electric base (Canon PS)

Download this poem in the free chapbook “Destruction Instructions”, w/ poems read on 2/27/15 at Chicago’s Uptown Arts Center

See YouTube video of Janet Kuypers’ November 2018 Book Release Reading 11/7/18, where she read her “Destruction Instructions” poems “one oh one destruction instructions: a Man calls a Woman”, “one oh two destruction instructions: Self-Destructive”, “one oh three destruction instructions: Run Faster”, “one twenty-fifteen destruction instructions: on Destroying a Relationship”, and “one twenty-fifteen destruction instructions: Use Drones to Kill”, all from the Janet Kuypers 2014-2015 Chicago poetry performance art book “a year long Journey”, during Community Poetry at Half Price Books (from a Panasonic Lumix T56 camera).

See YouTube video of Janet Kuypers’ November 2018 Book Release Reading 11/7/18, where she read her “Destruction Instructions” poems “one oh one destruction instructions: a Man calls a Woman”, “one oh two destruction instructions: Self-Destructive”, “one oh three destruction instructions: Run Faster”, “one twenty-fifteen destruction instructions: on Destroying a Relationship”, and “one twenty-fifteen destruction instructions: Use Drones to Kill”, all from the Janet Kuypers 2014-2015 Chicago poetry performance art book “a year long Journey”, during Community Poetry at Half Price Books (from a Panasonic Lumix T56; Posterize).

See YouTube video of Janet Kuypers reading her Periodic Table poems “Neodymium” from her 5/18/13 Nashville Tag Team poetry feature and read from her v5 cc&d poetry anthology “On the Edge”, then her poem “One Twenty Fifteen Destruction Instructions: on Destroying a Relationship” originally from her poetry feature “Destruction Instructions” and read from her poetry performance art collection book “A Year-Long Journey”, and her 2019 poem “Quilled for Poets” live 2/16/19 at Austin’s “Recycled Reads” (this video was filmed from a Panasonic Lumix 2500 camera).

See YouTube video of Janet Kuypers reading her Periodic Table poems “Neodymium” from her 5/18/13 Nashville Tag Team poetry feature and read from her v5 cc&d poetry anthology “On the Edge”, then her poem “One Twenty Fifteen Destruction Instructions: on Destroying a Relationship” originally from her poetry feature “Destruction Instructions” and read from her poetry performance art collection book “A Year-Long Journey”, and her 2019 poem “Quilled for Poets” live 2/16/19 at Austin’s “Recycled Reads” (this video was filmed from a Panasonic Lumix T56 camera).

one twenty fifteen destruction instructions: on destroying a relationship Janet Kuypers 2/12/15 I know you came to me for assistance, and I know all I’m telling you are don’ts, but if you really want to get rid of them, follow these simple steps to destroy a relationship. Don’t pay them any attention. I mean, when they ask you a direct question, sure, you have to answer them — eventually, but just start going about your life like they weren’t there. Forget you have plans together. Make plans with your friends. I mean, if the two of you aren’t meant for each other, they’re not going to want to hang out with your friends anyway, right? (By the way, that could be your rationale, if they ask why you didn’t invite them.) Don’t give them any space at your place. Because you don’t want them to feel like they have any permanence in your life... Oh God, you’ve done that already, haven’t you? They have their crap at your place? Or let me guess, they’re trying to redecorate? (Oh, that’s worse...) Is the stuff there something of theirs that can be destroyed — on “accident”? ‘Cause really, if you want to end a relationship, you have to cut any and all strings. I mean it. Oh, I was going to suggest you should look like you have violent tendencies, maybe clean your guns more, but then I realized that acting crazy might backfire on you, they could call the cops or something, and you don’t want to deal with that load of mess. So, don’t go acting crazy, to drive them away... As tempting as that sounds. When something goes wrong, goes violently wrong, don’t tell your partner that you don’t want this to end. Don’t say that you don’t want this to be good bye. Because then you’re giving them mixed signals, you’re giving them a glimmer of hope that things might work out after all... Because really, the whole point for you is that you want this relationship to NOT to work out, right? Don’t say you don’t want to throw away your relationship (even if you do), please, don’t let them think you’re vested in this any more. And another thing, when something goes wrong, goes violently wrong, don’t tell them you’re sorry. God no, that’s the worst thing to say. Don’t open the window for them to think you might be at fault... I don’t give a shit if it’s your fault or not, but the last thing you do is tell them you’re sorry. For anything. I know they might cling, I know they might get desperate, but you said you wanted to be free. I’m only here to help. You might not like it, this might seem counter-intuitive sometimes, but they key is to not think about what you’re doing. Yeah, it might hurt, but that’s the point, isn’t it?

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